Editors note: I’m glad that this is something that has really changed.
When an invitation is given to a couple, both are expected to refuse if one happens to be otherwise engaged, especially if that one is the husband. It is disconcerting to a hostess, who may be having her troubles finding enough men anyway, to hear, “Bill has a committee dinner that night–but I’d love to come.”
Editors note: This is for Ms. Morgan who hates it when this happens. Now you can point to it being bad manners!
Some member of the household always goes to the door with the departing guest. The guests who will be remembered gratefully are those who express thanks for a pleasant time and take themselves off without due delay. Long chats in the hall or doorway, while other guests are wondering what has happened to host or hostess, are sure to take some of the shine off a party.
Editors Note: This is actually good advice and, with my librarian hat on, I wish that more journals and other publishers would follow it.
It is well to write one’s name in full. Three complete names are none too many for individual distinction in so crowded a world as is ours. If, however, the middle one is represented by an initial only, always write it uniformly. It is better, if the form with initial only has not become really established to use the full name, although it may be long.
Editor’s Note: I told you so.
If you are a good swimmer, you can give her some points on improving her stroke. Girls don’t mind being helped by an expert. If you’re very encouraging about her progress, she’ll be asking you to take her out often.
If you find that she’s one of those too-too-helpless creatures who’ll never learn, but who just likes to hang on and pretend she’s interested, you can let her slip into the water by accident, or suggest that she has too delicate a heart for swimming and that sitting in the sun will be more healthful.
Editor’s Note: You will NOT believe what she tells them to do if he is a good swimmer and she’s not… See tomorrow’s post!
If you’re not a good swimmer, don’t try to compete with the good ones. You won’t shine in her eyes if you have to be dragged out like a baby. Splash around for a while, then get out and pretend you’re more interested in getting a good tan. You can sneak out between dates and practice your swimming with the help of an instructor.
When you arrive at the car with her, open the door, but don’t boost her in. She might stumble, rip a ruffle on her new dress, — and would your stock go down then!
When you arrive at your destination, get out! Run around and open the door on her side. If you’re riding in a rumble seat, the “don’t boost” rule goes here too. Give her your hand and shower the best places to step. Steady her with your hand or let her put a hand on your shoulder if she wishes.
Don’t try to lift her, throw her in, or do any other “cute” little thing of that sort. Girls think about damage to shoes and clothes, and generally each has her own way of getting in and out of a rumble. You will get out first and get out on the ground. Then give her your hand as a support while she steps out.
Society holds young people who are free to attend parties and entertainments under stern obligation to pay their social calls. Young mothers, professional women, students, invalids, and semi-invalids are not expected to conform rigidly to the same rules. If a young woman can go to a party to amuse herself, she must call afterwards to acknowledge the courtesy of the invitation.